Your body, with its instinct for self-preservation, knows, on some level, that Human Giver Syndrome is slowly killing you. That’s why you keep trying mindfulness and green smoothies and self-care trend after self-care trend. But that instinct for self-preservation is battling a syndrome that insists that self-preservation is selfish, so your efforts to care for yourself might actually make things worse, activating even more punishment from the world or from yourself, because how dare you?”
We’ve been told for years that putting ourselves first is selfish and to suck it up. Okay that’s two fold. First I need you as I have erase those words and thoughts. Now if there is an emergency, someone needing a friend to listen, the immediate attention to family; by all means go to it.
Second I’m speaking of that down time for you and it’s just not about a workout. That time to meditate, listen to a podcast that motivates you, pray, read a book, a massage, bubble bath. And yes sometime during the week include a workout as many as you can. A pause a workout can be one that works for you and the time as well. Not sure what workout, then send me a message and we can talk via email. Now that down time is for you. This time can be early AM before everyone in your house rise midday on a break or even late night when everyone is asleep.
This down time is what will keep you in a synced mode on what is occurring in your life and how to approach it. Being selfish sometimes mean you must take care of you. WHY? Simple, so you can be there for those that depend and need you, and most of all will build that great strength, love you have for all those you care and love.
So Nope, you are not selfish for taking care of you and that is the truth.