Overcoming Relationship Doubts: Finding Strength in Yourself

This is a soft and yet heavy topic. It also has two answers. Yes and No. Personal relationships for many of us who care about an individual can be affected. I’ll share how in a minute. It does not matter if you are in the beginning hoping to build a relationship in it for a few months or years, once you care and enjoy an individual you can be affected. For many it is just move on for those as I am sensitive and yet strong but meet someone you feel you have some what of a connection it can be a pull at you.

You begin to doubt your judgement of another and yourself, you have one thousand questions of “what ifs” just floating around and then the energy from the “what ifs” seem to pull at you. For some it’s isolation and many it can be tears or even a few days of alcohol indulgence. We are handle it different. Yes it may affect your workouts because of the energy given to the situation will drain you.

Now for the big girls and guys that walk away as if they are not affected I need you to stop. You know you are and because you need to exhibit that self confidence as if it’s time to move on and you really don’t want others to think you are as many might say “a wimp” or “it was short just move on” “there are more fishes in the sea” or the one I really don’t like “they were not for you”. I say it is all a big bucket of poppy crap. You’re disappointed, you hurt, you too may have misjudged or still questioning yourself. It is good however it does not affect your workouts totally because I know you was lifting 80 lbs. and the last few days you’ve only been able to lift 40.

Honestly, I’ve experienced both and was affected in both ways. One I heard the “what ifs” and in another I walked around amongst friends as if I wasn’t affected but alone I did dab as few tears.

My answer to it all is the same, how you care, bond, love or feel about someone will affect you. Allow a few days and set those days to recover, get yourself and energy back. DON’T believe that you are unworthy ABSOLUTELY NOT. You are GREAT and WORTHY of things GOOD POSITIVE and GREAT. You just need to rewind and in many cases talk to that individual that too may share the same feels and the lost in communication is cleared. You may just be the PERFECT person for each other and grow or become friends (you have to decide the limits on the friendship), or maybe just end the relationship at a zero. It does not matter the time limit, but it is the value and how you feel about an individual. It’s one of those grandma things I was taught and I stand firm today in it.

“FOLLOW YOUR HEART”.

Okay you have thought it through and now in recovery mode so let’s get those workout scheduled. You are a CHAMPION, I’m over here cheering for you.