HOW DARE YOU….Miss RUDE

I am uncertain if “how dare you” are the best choice of words or “are you serious”.   I recently ran into an ex co-worker  and we both or I thought was excited to see each other after several years, okay many years.  Our greeting was great and we had a few laughs as we both were on a time schedule and the run in was coincidental.
Everything turned to a low when she said, ” my have you changed I remember when you was so much smaller, but I’d recognize your face anywhere”. I guess the face recognition was good.  I did not share with her before size 2 and 4 I was 20 and now 8 sometimes a 10.  I shared I was so unhealthy, my eating disorder and working out to cancel any calories I consumed. At this point I expected something like, oh my glad you changed that.
But no, deep breath, she said ” you didn’t look unhealthy and you was so much prettier, I think thin is you”. I was stunned and quickly changed the conversation to the weather and soon within seconds ended our conversation.
Now I asked when is thin better than healthy and fit? Am I lost, thin does not make you pretty or does it? Well no,
I will continue on my journey to being healthy and fit and most of all self-love. I still need more toning ; workouts ( weight lifting, cardio, yoga)  and healthy eating is my life style of change because I am still learning.
I WILL NOT return to my previous life of binging to weight out of control nor will I return to a life of eating disorder to be thin to look pretty.
To a week of a healthy and fit YOU.

Compare – Stop – Believe

I am not certain how everyone else feels, but for me there are days I have to check myself. When I say check myself I mean my attitude on fitness journey.

You ever look at someone who is so fit, toned and muscles popping in the right place? As a female I think muscles are awesome as long as you do not look like the Hulk 24-7, but flexing, contest I just adore.  I am so guilty in comparing my journey and success of journey to others and look at someone else and do the EVIL thing.  I say it is evil because we are made up differenlty, our bodies, response to different workouts, food consumption, metabolism.  Instead of admiring of course I am one to always complement, but that EVIL which is

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Yes “Compare” is unfair to me to you.  Everyones’ struggle and success is different.  Instead of comparing I have learned and must remind myself to set goals and continue my journey.  Goal setting allows me to check myself and see my own success.  So I say let’s eliminate the “evil”

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Instead let’s love ourselves and whatever journey you are on stay focused because you are already a winner, achiever.

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To a winning week of GREATNESS.

The Challenge of Weight Lifitng

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Weightlifting can sometimes be a challenge. There are days I can bench 85 -100 pounds, I can squat the same amount, and then there are days…….. I must decrease my weights. Sometimes it is because of a RA (rheumatoid arthritis flare), but there are days I just don’t have the strength.

Of course there are factors that can affect this. Factors such as in adequate hours of sleep, too little or too high caloric intake, usually it is the too little, stress, inadequate fluid intake. These are just a few. However I do encourage myself as I encourage anyone else that experience days as this, to just decrease the weights and keep going.

I know a as I sometimes motivate myself to not give up, do not be disappointed; you are a WINNER  don’t stop now. To a great week of WORK OUT and being STRONG.

Me Before You….Is This Selfish

You know I have always been taught that is selfish to think of yourself first. I agreed with this for many years. But how about when it comes to working out, this is what I need and I know so many people need to begin their day.

But a friend calls and want to talk for 45 minutes, that’s your workout time. Or a friend comes by and want to chat for hours that you work out time and meal prep time. Someone want you to go shopping with them your are about to work out. Do you go along with it or do you just say come chime in a workout nor that they may or may not probably not. But they do encourage you that you have time to do it later which may affect your schedule later.

I have learned to say no. This is not the time maybe later or another day because I need this worked out so that I can function for the rest of my day. Selfish I don’t think so sometimes you have to think about ourselves. I know some you are going to feel different and I will respect that. But unless it’s an emergency is know when it’s my workout time this helps create a greater me.

To a workout week of greatness.