The title seems as if I’ve repeated myself and I have. In a recent share on IG and FB ( I post daily motivation quotes and how I interpret to apply for life).
Individualizing yourself. This is one that I had to reflect on as I created the quote. It is so easy to mimic the life of others. We take the advice of others but then I notice people try to emulate that person 100 percent n then just stop their growth because they see themselves as a failure. This is not so. Why?, What?
It is great to take the advice of others especially if it’s positive and can assist on whatever journey you’re currently traveling. I use travel because a journey toward any goal is like a road trip. The terrain changes. Okay back to YOU. Taking the advice does not mean to try to emulate their life. You nor I do not know what their entire journey has been and nor do we know ALL the solutions. We do know what is being shared but in applying all the good advice and inspiration, don’t forget you.
Forgetting YOURSELF will make the journey tougher, longer and you will loose your identity. As we ( you and I) continue on our journey let’s remember learn from others and apply within OUR life but to be honest and true to ourselves. I’ll be me and YOU be YOU.
I ask “ Is it YOU”. To a great week, month of Individualizing.
I can only think as I share my journey with many of all ages and hear these sayings. “WHAT”. Okay a list and I’m not sure if these are to deter me, mock me or if people believe it.
1. Is this workout appropriate for your age? Is there an age limit to workouts, if you can do it well do it.
2. What’s your reason, I don’t understand. My workout reason is that I enjoy it, the way I feel in so many ways and YOU don’t need to understand my why for my fitness, however if you’d like to join me to experience the joy, fun and change I am, well come on over Let’s Do This.
3. Are you afraid of injury, I thought you had RA. Yes, I do have RA and if I’m not flaring I’m good and if I am I just adjust the move, weight or whatever is necessary for me to complete the workout. Yes, I’m afraid, afraid I will become lazy, unhealthy and let others decide MY designation in MY fitness journey.
4. I was told that after a certain age blah blah blah. Really and no one ever told you to encourage others, or not to place limitations on your self, maybe someone said your age should not define your capability or stop your growth in every possible area of your life and that does include fitness.
I encourage ANYONE that wants to begin a fitness regimen PLEASE do so. You are denying yourself if you listen to the whispers that say no, you can’t, or don’t.
It’s time to drown out the whispers and become You for YOU. Do IT
Reflecting on my fitness journey and the struggles I had at the beginning and how many times I begin and stopped. Really the the number is, I don’t know but I can say it was greater than 20. Yes that many and why? It took me a long while to understand me and why I would stop. The BIGGEST reason and it was only one, the others were just excuses to satisfy myself.
The BIGGEST REASON, I was not accepting me for me for the now. I was not happy with myself, how I look and how I felt and just kept thinking I don’t like me. I was not accepting myself for where I was and the person I was at that time. When I begin to accept me just as I was and looking at myself loving me for me just as I was but willing to adjust you know begin tweaking me. Yes, accepting myself I was able to see what changes I wanted to do and those I could implement immediately, plans, writing it down, staying focus. I had to accept the current me to grow into the me I wanted to be.
But this applies to not just fitness journey, it applies to any journey. So today if you’re wanting change and keep stopping to start over again, I ask you to STOP the stopping. I want you to ACCEPT YOU just as you are right now, love you. Now the changes you want, the goals, write them down, and every day evaluate, tweak but continue to ACCEPT YOU and keep moving toward those goals.
If you didn’t know I’m here to tell you, YOU ARE GREAT. Did you hear that or should I shout it again? Okay YOU ARE GREAT.
That is something I need to share because you are and it is good to hear it from someone else but okay to acknowledge it to yourself for you. I once thought and was raised to believe you allow others to tell you you’re good, great you should not do this yourself. This is such a a cow field and acres of yeah you know. Waiting on someone else to admit your greatness may take a life time, maybe not that long but years.
How does greatness within relate to a workout well it does and I will explain. There are so many people thinking working out will improve the person they are for the wrong reason. Workouts will improve your physical appearance and your mindset about your appearance, improve confidence and make you feel like you own it (it is whatever your journey in life is).
NOW, did you know your physical appearance is already great whether you need to lose 5, 10, 40 or 100 pounds. You just need to tweak it to get it to your desired healthy weight or size. However know if you are working out the size change may come before the weight change. The non-scale victory always show up first.
Tweak your workouts and nutrition will make a difference in your physique BUT I need to tell you THAT GREATNESS has always been there. Yes your mindset of positive, the confidence has been there you just had it locked in or only allowed it to flow slowly. SO yes tweaking is necessary. Just as we tweak our wordings when writing, talking, our clothes, hairstyles, makeup, shave don’t forget how GREAT you are.
Is it, I know all weight loss should be considered a great move, BUT all weight loss is not healthy. This sounds confusing but don’t read into it and don’t think I’m trying to confuse you. NOWAY.
I have a few friends 👬 on weight loss journey and feel they are doing good and they are. Their concerns is not their workouts but their nutrition because they are not sure if their current nutrition will be forever. First changing your mindset in nutrition is a plus x 20. This takes discipline and a lot of it. However if your change is a FAD hmmm, probably needs to be evaluated.
A change in nutrition should be a lifestyle change one you are getting adequate nutrition to sustain your body’s requirements and will be able to follow for the rest of your life. Temporary change does not assist in a healthy you, its like placing a board on a hole in the road. You want to be lose fat, build muscle be it lean or bulky, also know everyone lose and build at a different rate. I should know because there are months my change is slower than a snail or a turtle.
As mentioned in previous blogs find the change that works for and with you, because an unhealthy weight loss can be as damaging to the body as overeating.
To a journey of healthy weight loss- STRONG and HEALTHY is the new Skinny.
This exactly when we compare too much. Okay I’m not saying not to compare at all, because it is human, but we must know the limits and exactly when to STOP.
Working out is challenging enough but when we as I have to call myself out so many times look at others and their results from workout and see a greater response and wonder…. “why am I not seeing these results” or “why is it taking me longer and I’m seeing slower results” and so many more thoughts of comparison.
First we are all different in DNA, genetics. There are so many reasons but comparing in a negative way will cause FAILURE how?, because there is that possibility you just may give up. PLEASE don’t. Stay focused being the best of you in your workouts, your nutrition KEEP IT POSITIVE.
Now that Ive said that how do I know, well this was all me. Comparing looking at others results wondering when I would notice change, forgetting about the non scale victories and the small changes ( that are adding up).
Be a WINNER , compare things that don’t affect your goals such as nail polish, tools, dress colors, drills but stay focus. WINNING the SELF GOALS …. we got this
It was just one day and that day was Monday – Memorial Day, I decided to skip my workout, but I did my steps in moving about but again I skipped my workout. I did not feel guilty but my body is so programmed I noticed a change in energy.
Tuesday’s workout was good, no great but I had to push myself since it was so easy to skip Monday’s workout. Now there are times when my schedule change and life throws us curves that we have to make adjustments. However being committed and focusing on goals, for me its “my fitness journey”. Just a share if you’re not committed you can make an excuse everyday that will deter your goals.
What the heck am I saying, well it’s easy stay committed to your goals, even if you get off course for one day and maybe two but don’t make it an end.
This is a question I was recently asked ” How do you know what’s the best workout”. Sadly I could not answer the question. Now don’t get startled before I share my reason.
I believe all workouts are “The Best”, yes I do. Now the concerns are is the workout for you, the intensity – too much or too little. If it’s weights are you able to use weights and most people are. Let me pause you can use 3 pound weights until they feel like 1 pound for as long as you like. You do not have to increase because the trainer or it is recommended. For certain EVERY trainer wants you to be safe, the gains will come.
Best workouts really depends on the relationship you have with your body and mindset. You know your limits when you’ve exceeded or have not given your 100. NOW the biggest challenge is YOUR COMMITMENT. If you are NOT committed to follow through with a trainer whether it is at the gym or like me using the trainers on BEACHBODYONDEMAND my favorite at home workout for unlimited positive reasons, your response to the workout may be negative BUT the blame is ???
Follow through means the entire program because response to workouts vary among all of us and for certain 2 days or 1 week may not or only show a small response. Follow through also means adhering to the nutrition (I still struggle sometimes with nutrition). Follow through means being aware of the non scale victories- inches lost, feeling good about yourself, the extra rep or two you can perform, weights increased on a workout, increased positive response to life.
Discover YOUR Best workout begin and or continue because I think you are AWESOME.
My Past – I have experienced weight fluctuations, size fluctuations. I’ve experienced almost every eating disorder known. I was concerned and didn’t know how to handle when I was disliked by family, friends and yes even foes, I thought I had to appease so many. I allowed myself to be taken advantage of. BUT I continued to workout always a fitness junkie but there are eliminations for success in fitness.
You can not be physical engaged in any fitness and expect an outcome to be proud of with an eating disorder which will eventually affect your health. I was blessed to only experience small bouts of anemia that only required Iron injections. Appeasing others brings on stress and I was stressed 85% of the time. Stress hinders a great response to any fitness and I neglected myself a lot.
My Present -& My Future -Today change and implementations is helping me to a proud future. That future begins at 1200 AM everyday. I workout to be strong, fit, healthy- NOT THIN. I’ve experienced the thin and the torture I did to my body was and is not an easy recovery.
I love family, friends and have learned to love but cautious of the frienemy, but no longer allow intimidation, words of negativity, nonsupport and abuse (which comes in many ways) have a value. I LOVE MYSELF, Yes . My journey to fitness is for my health, joy and loving all the GREAT aspect of life- THE FUTURE- MY FUTURE.
Every trainer has a different approach to workouts. To many just watching will deter your thoughts. How so because you might think as I’ve done in the past that it is too much.
Every trainer I’ve worked out with has been GOOD. Really each one, no kidding, each one. I know this seems like a lie, but it’s not. I’ve had trainers at the gym and of course I do now workout a home, love beachbody. I want to clarify NOW as I’ve been confronted for having such a support for beachbody and home workouts. With my fluctuating schedule and other responsibilities going to the gym was not able to help with my fitness journey as I was able to make it to the gym once maybe twice a week and sometimes not at all. Home workouts gave me a freedom And I am able to keep my goal and fitness journey in focus.
Returning to “trainers”. Trainers have a different approach but they all have the same outcome. The trainer may not be the BEST for you for whatever reason. PLEASE let’s show respect and not BADMOUTH a trainer. Just move on to one that works for you as well as challenge you.
If you don’t have a trainer or feel you don’t need one okay. Just keep a schedule of your workouts and increase, routines, reps, weights and add another this will prevent the muscles and body from being complacent.
Beachbody has many trainers and for whatever your level of fitness is and with this offer I had to earn instead of running away from a challenging trainer to modify and continue. This is how I’ve learned different approach, yet challenging, satisfying workouts. I do cry sometimes, and I huff and puff, I fall down also I question the sanity of trainers when I am challenged. BUT once again they’re ALL GOOD.