Reflecting on my fitness journey and the struggles I had at the beginning and how many times I begin and stopped. Really the the number is, I don’t know but I can say it was greater than 20. Yes that many and why? It took me a long while to understand me and why I would stop. The BIGGEST reason and it was only one, the others were just excuses to satisfy myself.
The BIGGEST REASON, I was not accepting me for me for the now. I was not happy with myself, how I look and how I felt and just kept thinking I don’t like me. I was not accepting myself for where I was and the person I was at that time. When I begin to accept me just as I was and looking at myself loving me for me just as I was but willing to adjust you know begin tweaking me. Yes, accepting myself I was able to see what changes I wanted to do and those I could implement immediately, plans, writing it down, staying focus. I had to accept the current me to grow into the me I wanted to be.
But this applies to not just fitness journey, it applies to any journey. So today if you’re wanting change and keep stopping to start over again, I ask you to STOP the stopping. I want you to ACCEPT YOU just as you are right now, love you. Now the changes you want, the goals, write them down, and every day evaluate, tweak but continue to ACCEPT YOU and keep moving toward those goals.
So WHAT, now do you know the meaning of that? I bet not, but so what.
Okay I have to tell myself this and I think others should too as long as we’re not doing it on a regular basis. I am good for meal prepping, or have ready made salad fixings especially when I’m extremely tired. BUT there are days I do toss it to the side not intentionally. Like when I forget to make a grocery list and pick up everything else but what I need for me because I have enough. I was wrong . This is a recent occurrence and what did I do.
Well I stopped at Burger King and purchased the Impossible Whopper. It was okay, a bit large in size and I was only able to consume 1/2 of it . I was okay with this and said so what. Yes because I knew I would not eat it again at least for awhile.
So what is not only for me but for Anyone feeling guilty about deviating from a workout, well you will resume so what, if you’ve gain weight and not happy about it but you have begin working out and changed your nutritional intake, so what to the weight gain.
What I’m saying is making change to a better you and with change you cannot focus on reaching goals if you waste time on the past. Yes that burger is the past because I will not eat it again for several weeks most likely months. Did it hinder my workout umm just slightly.
So WHAT, what matters and is so important is the change or changes you,me, we have decided on to reach our goals.
Yes did you do it? A few days ago there was again a new national day I was introduced to, “Ditch Your Resolution”, really.
Well if you did, I’m encouraging you to reinstate them especially if it is for your health and you had a workout plan and nutrition plan that you feel was useless and not working, again Really.
You must to begin with Believe in yourself and also Have patience. There is no sudden miraculous change in the fitness and nutrition world, well surgery. Otherwise you have to plan for the journey. I know I once and sometimes wish for that miraculous change, but I also know it takes input on that wish.
Input the time in workouts. The gyms are always busy in the beginning of the year, if you can change your time. Find out from the staff the least busy times. If you cannot do that then you can join me workout at home with so many choices and trainers. Whatever you do don’t give up on you. Also don’t make huge challenges in your workout you know you are not prepared for. Start out gradual and then increase the intensity or minutes and your body will tell you when, just again don’t stop.
Nutrition change is a challenge for many so you are not alone but don’t go making drastic changes you know you will not adhere to. Don’t set yourself up for disappointment, notice disappointment not failure because you are not a failure. Slow changes again or hey I know of a few nutrition program that are lifestyle changes not temporary but for life and are simple to follow.
Okay with that all said how about reinstating those intentions again, you in? Say yes, nod your head yes, smile not DO IT back to that journey.
How is that for a topic “Authenticity”. I read a lot of personal development books and a few are a repeat because I note the extra insight I receive about me that boost my @ss, I sometimes that is what I need. But just reading isn’t always enough, at least for me. I also listen to different podcasts. This word “Authenticity” is popping up a lot and what I’m learning and see in a few people how not authentic they are. Also make a note I’m only about 95% so I got work to do, that 5 percent is not as easy as saying 22.214.171.124.5.
Even in my workouts and I do share on social media I once boasted about how the workout was tough or challenging and my weights used. I once did just that. But being authentic to yourself, followers means really being you telling it like it is and not just following alone because so many are doing it, or believing it. It means really being true to you, loving you and proud of you. It’s okay if you are in the lower percentage on some things and I’m speaking of workouts at this time.
I at one time did not share how the workout was a challenge and I had to drop my weight from two 30 lb dumbbells to two 20’s or 15, as well as the reason. Of course I’d post the pic of the dumbbells but not share the whole story. I no longer do that, even in something so small as workouts and weights being authentic means being honest with yourself and others to whom you share.
What? Why?, because it is good for some to know it is okay if you have to drop set your weights to complete a routine and the reason.
For me the reasons are various:
1. Not enough sleep- without adequate sleep 6 hours minimum my workouts are sucky and I’m not able to lift heavy I mean a 10 lb dumbbell feels like 20 or 25
2. If my form is off, not standing correctly or only able to lift 1/2 the height or thrusting I know I need to decrease the weight because I am straining not getting the full benefit. There is a difference between straining and challenging.
3. Weight is challenging but my form is off and I’m at high risk of injury
4. My mindset is not with the workout and I need to either stop and repeat the entire workout later, or push through with decreased workouts to get the most out of that particular day’s workout.
There are more but just a short list.
So I ask how AUTHENTIC are you with yourself in any aspect of your life ?
Let this week be one to evaluate your authenticity and if necessary as I’m doing make steps to change.
Inner strength does not, well for me just me pushing myself to one more rep or lifting extra weight. Inner strength is being strong to walk away from negative people, saying NO instead of yes when I know the topic is not favorable or positive towards my goals or life or harming someone else.
Inner strength to let go of friends you know are toxic or unsupportive always about them. Am I ranting? No and yes. No because I have realized toxic people have slowed down a few of my life goals. Now is this their fault, NO. It’s mine because I allowed it. Unsupportive, I know we are all different in many ways and similar in many, but that support is two ways. Yes is supporting you all the times and you never support me hmmm. Yep I have to dig deep and move on. This really can hurt for a few days but that deep breathe of clean air and light weight yeah feels good. This takes great inner strength because LIFE is short and who wants to limit association with friends and family. No one, but if it means clarity and enjoying your life and making goals become a reality ….. you get it. This just take Inner strength. I am still a bit weak in some areas but my strength is growing and I feel better in eliminating.
This applies to and for me. PLEASE do not run about eliminating people from your life. Evaluate and not just on one incidence. Communicate, explain your concerns and feelings. It takes inner strength to do that also because it it’s so easy to shake it off and off and off.
There is so much going on in the fitness world, workouts, diets, and fasting. Intermittent fasting is getting a lot of chatter and so far I’m hearing good results. I was approached by a colleague and asked if I’d ever tried it. My face went blank and I stared before I answered because I could tell by her excitement she had tried it and was doing it regularly.
Why did I stare, well I hadn’t shared my fasting days, which were really my anorexia days. I wasn’t sure if I was going to be judged. Not that it matters on this subject but the negative conversation that come up I just wasn’t feeling it. I did however share with her the details why I can’t intermittent fast purposely.
Purposely yes, some days life just keep me busy before I realize it has been 18 hours darn near 24 sometimes that I have eaten. My blood sugar is low, my attitude is not very pleasant and I’m hangry. When this happens I make certain my first bite will be either a protein, for me usually peanut butter or a protein bar or a plate of veggies. I then follow up with a glass of water, wait a few minutes and I’m okay.
Intermittent fasting is not for me due to my volleying anorexia, bulimia, and overeating I just try to do it all my way. Yep eating 85/15 sometimes 75/25 (not often) and working out and hanging onto my fitness journey in a healthy way. My eating fluctuates because I do use portion containers – Portion fix with Autumn Calabrese is good in making sure your nutrition is not lacking so you can eat almost anything. Now 2BMindset another nutrition intake on Beachbodyondemand.com with Ilana Muhlstein. Eating what you normally eat at specific times and portion make a HUGE difference. Which is my favorite, uh neither. No favorite when they both are batting 100.
To prevent myself from slipping back into unhealthy eating habits I will not test myself because I know my relationship with myself. I do applaud all doing the intermittent fasting and with great results. Keep up the greatness within you and what works for you.
Working out for fitness and seeing the body’s response can be fast or slow. This is the tea- WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT.
Knowing that we are different is to say there will be different responses. The worst thing is to compare your body’s response to another. I learned this and had to refocus on ME. I know that my metabolism is off due to my history of an eating disorder and it’s going to take a bit more of everything not just workouts but nutrition as well. With this known I know my response to any workout program is going to be slower. Am I upset well NO.
If you want CHANGE it is first to know yourself. Knowing yourself is to know your body. Cardio workouts may give you little response and weight lifting may display a huge change or vice versa. Proteins, carbohydrates, vegetables, fruits, healthy fats does not react the same in everyone. Again I say, know your body and if you don’t just move things around and figure it out or consult a nutrition, metabolism testing helps decide which food groups works best for you. But whatever you DON’T STOP” just because your results are not as fast as someone else or different body parts are responding slower.
Also don’t forget the non scale victory or should I say victories because there are so many. Just keep working out and know and believe change is happening and your goal awaits. To weeks of VICTORY for working out I’m saluting you with an extra lift.
It is, and I’d say it one thousand times. There are many struggles for me on my fitness journey.
1. Pushing myself to workout when I want to be just lazy which is not a good idea because I know me I’d use that excuse even when I’m not.
2. Making certain I don’t over indulge when I’m celebrating with friends and family. It is so easy to over indulge and there is a difference between enjoying yourself, (which I do) and over indulging. When I consume way too much my workouts are TOUGH. I be breathing harder, a 40 pound dumbbell feels like 90, two jumping jacks feel like I’ve ran a mile so I’ve learned, however there are a few times I forget.
3. When life challenges appear and you want to throw in the towel and just stop everything. For life challenges drain me, energy and all. On these time I PRAY and ask God for guidance and strength. Of course I read and listen to Personal Development books and podcast.
These are a few of my struggles and I pedal through, keep the focus and goal in my vision. For those who struggle just know you are not alone and you too should keep the focus and goal and know your goals are achievable.
Do you know the value of small changes? I am aware there are people that really want to make a physical change and begin their fitness journey but will not because of easy excuses:
1. I don’t have time or my time is limited – I know but just start anywhere, 5 minutes of a workout will begin a process and progress and outweighs NOTHING
2. My days are so limited – okay commit to the day or days you do have again JUST GET STARTED
3. I’m not sure if I can lift as much as others, run as long , squat as low and so on- uh huh its not about others, its about YOU. Yes you give your best, stop measuring your self to others.
Making the small changes, commit, 5 minutes, one day two days, lift 2 lbs, run 30 seconds squat as low as you can and with consistency all of this will change and those small changes will add up and not only that you will be so proud of yourself. How do I know, because this was once me.
It really did. I had personal things going on and I ALLOWED it to take my strength for a minute. But first I need to rewind from the beginning, usually after I do my my feline and canine chores in the AM I workout. Monday I decided to take care of a continuous pending issue which is personal and a different response from several people. I was about to explode and took a deep breathe, muttered a few quick prayers for strength and guidance. Did it get resolved, NOPE, but I will follow up in a few days.
With this, my energy was drained and I should have taken a few minutes to regroup but I did my set up, weights, workout mat and tuned into DAY 29 of my 100 days of workout. To begin I was not focused and almost stopped because my heart just was not in it. I paused my workout, took a deep breathe and did a mental conversation with myself. Allowing my strength, focus and energy to be taken away was a NO NO. Life is not always perfect but its how you handle it that matters. Staying focus and not losing sight of my goals is important because I know from experience if I do so without what I consider “ just cause” I’ll keep it up for a minute. That minute is not 60 seconds it could be days or weeks.
I prayed again, regrouped and gave my workout 100% of me. I must say I was proud. By the way I know that everyone is not a playful person I respect that, just respect that I am also I pray daily not only when situations arise; sometimes and some days I have to pray more.
To everyone I say, “stay focused on your goals be it a workout, life change, or empowering yourself for your greatness” Don’t allow situations to steal your focus, it’s life. Re-evaluate the situation, realign your focus and keep it moving, YOUR GOAL AWAITS